Courageous Men

Today we will see a movie called Courageous. Itís a movie that deals with courageous men, policemen. But the title doesnít refer to the policeman as much as it refers to the men as husbands and fathers. Most of us recognize that facing difficult situations that are fleeting and physical in nature are often easier to face than situations that are long-term and emotional and spiritual in nature. Perhaps that is why so many men fail to realize their potential as husbands and fathers. Yet the most important challenge to men is precisely the subject of the film. Let me share a few statistics with you and then a few Bible verses that teach us about being good perhaps even excellent husbands and fathers. Make no mistake about it. Being a man, being a husband, being a father takes true courage. Courageous men can change the world starting at home and on into their communities. Letís get ready!

Men as Husbands


*†† Joshua 24:15 (as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord)

*†† Psalm 128 (blessed is the man who fears the Lord)

*†† 2 Timothy 2:15 (diligent workman, approved and unashamed)

*†† Matthew 7:24-27 (wise man builds his house upon the Rock)

*†† 1 Samuel 16:7 (focus on the heart, not outward appearance)


*†† 1 Corinthians 13:11 (became a man, put away childishness)

*†† 1 Corinthians.16:13-14 (act like men, be strong; do all in love)

*†† Proverbs 31:11 (husband trusts in his wife)

*†† Ephesians 4:14-16 (mature man, no longer children tossed)

*†† 1 Peter 3:7 (live with your wives in an understanding way)

*†† Ephesians 5:25-33 (husbands, love your wives sacrificially)

*†† Proverbs 31:28-29 (husband verbally praises his wife)

*†† John 12:24 (unless a grain of wheat dies, it abides alone)

*†† John 15:13 (there is no greater love than to lay down oneís life)

*†† Philippians 2:3-5 (do nothing from selfishness; put others first)

*†† 2 Timothy 2:1-7 (faithful men will teach others also)

*†† Titus 2:2 (older men teach younger men about true manhood)

*†† 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (love bears, believes, hopes, and endures)

*†† Proverbs 29:11 (fools vent anger, but a wise man holds it back)



Biblical Portrait of a Husband

*†† A godly husband is fully submitted to Christ. (Colossians 1:10-12)

*†† He loves his wife sacrificially. (John 12:24)

*†† He diligently seeks to understand his wife. (1 Peter 3:7)

*†† He lovingly teaches her the truth of Godís word, both overtly and through his conduct. (Ephesians 5:25-27)

*†† He is concerned about the spiritual well being of his wife and prays for her on a regular basis. (Colossians 4:2)

*†† He does not rule over his wife or family; he is there to serve even as he leads. (Mark 10:45)

*†† He takes seriously his responsibility to shepherd his family knowing that he must give an account to the Lord. (Ephesians 6:4)

*†† He listens attentively to his wife to grow in his knowledge of her. (Proverbs 31:11)

*†† He treats his wife with gentleness and understanding at all times. (1 Peter 3:7)

*†† He places the interests of his wife above his own. (Philippians 2:3-5)

*†† He is self-controlled, kind, humble, and not easily angered. (Galatians 5:22-23)

*†† He is not ruled by alcohol or other forms of intoxication. (Proverbs 20:1)

*†† He does not indulge in ungodly passions; instead he disciplines his body to bring it under Godís authority. (Galatians 5:24)

*†† He is ruled by Christ and places himself completely under His authority. (1 Corinthians 11:3)

*†† He is not wise in his own eyes but relies on the wisdom of God as revealed in His word. (Proverbs 26:12; Psalm 1)

*†† He does not lean on his own understanding. (Proverbs 3:5-6)

*†† His decisions and actions flow from his study and meditation on Godís Word, rather than from his own desires. (Ps.119:11)

*†† He takes great pleasure in his wifeís body and is faithful to her. (Genesis 2:24-25; 1 Corinthians 7:2)

*†† He recognizes that his body is not his own but also belongs to his wife. (1 Corinthians 7:3-4)

*†† He uses his speech to edify and build up his wife and children. (Colossians 4:6)

*†† He guards his tongue, using it for blessing rather than cursing. (Ephesians 4:15)

*†† He provides for the financial needs of his family. (1 Timothy 5:8)

*†† He praises his wife to her and others and treats her as a precious treasure. (Proverbs 31:28-29)

*†† His life reflects the fruit of the Spirit. (Galatians 5:22-23)

*†† He is a God-pleaser, not a man-pleaser. (Galatians 1:10)



Men as Fathers


*†† James 1:5 (if you lack wisdom, ask of God who gives generously)

*†† Galatians 6:9 (do not grow weary and you will reap in due time)

*†† Philippians 4:13 (I can do all things through Christ)

*†† Psalm 127:3-5 (children are a blessing; blessed is a full quiver)

*†† Proverbs 29:17 (correct your son, and he will give you comfort)

*†† Proverbs 22:6 (train up a child in the way he should go)

*†† Exodus 20:5-6 (He shows steadfast love to thousands who obey)

*†† Psalm 112:1-2 (descendants of the upright will be blessed)

*†† 1 Thessalonians 2:8 (I loved you so much, I shared my life with you)



*†† Joshua 24:15 (as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord!)

*†† Psalm 78:5-7 (fathers are to teach each successive generation)

*†† 1 Corinthians 4:15-16 (Iím your spiritual father; be imitators of me)

*†† 1 Corinthians 16:13 (stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong)

*†† Ephesians 6:4 (fathers, do not provoke your children to anger)

*†† Colossians 3:21 (fathers, do not exasperate your children)

*†† Deuteronomy 6:6-7 (teach them diligently to your children)

*†† Proverbs 3:12 (whom the Lord loves He reproves even as a father)

*†† Proverbs 22:15 (folly is bound up in the heart of a child)

*†† Proverbs 3:5-6 (trust in the Lord with all your heart)

*†† Matthew 5:19 (one who breaks commands and teaches others to)

*†† 1 Timothy 5:8 (who doesnít provide for his own denies the faith)


God is the Role Model for Fathers

I.       God is a Father.

II.    The Heavenly Father created the family and established the role of fathers.

III. Multiple father-led families, set apart by Godís covenant, reflect the image of Heavenly Father as ďthe people of God.Ē


I.       Fathers parent differently.

II.    Fathers play differently.

III. Fathers build confidence.

IV.  Fathers communicate differently.

V.     Fathers discipline differently.

VI.  Fathers prepare children for the real world.

VII.           Fathers provide a look at the world of men.



*†† Sermon notes derived from Courageous Movie DVD Resources